Cornered

I don't know what to do any more. He is my friend. He needs help. I have come to know that he has endured a massive amount of abuse. I can't fix him, and I can fully admit to both him and the world that I can't live with the side effects either. I haven always been up front and honest with him. I told him I can not be his life coach. I can be his friend, I can be his partner, but I can not save him from himself. I recently found out that he's not only been put through the ringer with many women but he's spent a lot of time staying in relationships that were abusive just because the other person said they loved him. He's been dumbed down and repressed so much that he doesn't even enjoy sex because an ex used to yell at him. I love him, I do, I've loved him all my life, but I can not be in a relationship that is controlled by this crazy behavior. I'm a 26 year old woman, I'm sexual, I'm an open communicator, and I believe that relationships are not one sided they have to be about team work. But in this relationship the team doing all the work is me. He's not doing anything. The world is wrong and I'm crazy to him. He keeps telling me how these things were not a problem with other people.... but HELLO- they left! I'm trying to stay I'm trying to make it work. But I can't make it work if he won't work on himself. I want him to be happy. I want him to be healthy. I want him to be comfortable in his own skin. He's not any of those things. I can't rescue him....I can't rescue him.... I need him to rescue himself for himself he can't rescue himself for me. He deserves to be better, be deserves to be himself, he deserves to allow himself to enjoy sex with the person he loves. I am not willing to be in a communication free, sexless relationship, that is not the life I want. I want someone who is an equal with me. Someone who talks with me about our issues, works them out with me, enjoys intimacy with me. Not this.